Too often we women focus on how we look instead of what’s most important, what will connect us to our partners and ensure long-lasting confidence, how we feel.
When we focus on how we look, we’re focusing on external validation. We’re basing our feelings about ourselves based on someone else's criteria of how they think we “should” look, and often we do this not even based on their words but on how we “think” they think.
This sets up for continued insecurity, vacillating confidence and the inability to self-correct when our confidence waivers.
By letting go of how we look and tuning into how we feel, in our bodies, about ourselves, our actions, and about our world as connected through our senses, we not only connect to others in a meaningful way, but also, and let’s get personal for a moment, we have more satisfying sensual intimacy in our romantic relationships.
For example, if we have anxiety, fears, or a hard day, obsessing about that will only ensure that we try to self soothe by stuffing those feelings. Instead, if we tune into how our body feels, we can slow down, savor our food and use food (or whatever other experience we’re using to numb ourselves) as it was meant to be used, to nurture not disconnect our body.
All women are beautiful and valuable just the way they are, they just have to tune into their bodies and feel it, so they always know it.
I tried and tested this Self Appeal workshop in California and am so excited to bring it to Delaware. If you have any questions, check out selfappeal.com/local-classes for video testimonials, or call or send me an email. If you have no questions and you’re interested in a taking a couple hours before the holidays settle in and you feel rushed to “do” for everything and everybody else, sign up. Spend a couple hours using all your senses to tune into your body and reset your mind so you know how to tune into and feel good in your body with confidence all the time!